Difference.
May 15, 2008 by mesmericbeauty
Would you rather be liked/loved because you’re pretty and hot?
Or would you rather be liked/loved because you’re sweet and nice?
While some people instantly catch the attention of the opposite sex because of their exterior, guys like me because they say I am nice. They like me because I am sweet, understanding, and again, nice. And even though it feels good when someone likes you for your character/personality, I believe you’ll get sick of it one day.
You’ll just start thinking to yourself, “Am I really that unattractive, to the point that guys only like me because I am nice?”
Sure, my Baby always tells me I’m beautiful and I’m hot and all, but it is because he loves me, that’s why he says that. In the 2 years that we’ve known each other before we got together, he’s never found me attractive, I know that myself.
He told me he fell in love with me because I am nice, caring, understanding. He told me he loved my smile and my laughter. He said he loved my eyes, how they sparkle.
But he didn’t fall in love with me because of my looks. Which is good, right? Because he loves me for who I am. But sometimes, I really wish someone would tell me that I’m beautiful, someone who hasn’t fallen in love with my personality first.
Several times, guys talk to me because they want to know more, or they want to get close, to one of my girlfriends, who are obviously so much more attractive than I am. And even though I love helping them, each time that happens, my confidence level goes down by 50%. And it sucks. It really does.
I have friends, who tells me I’m beautiful, but I don’t know if they mean it or they’re just saying it because they’re my friends. But I appreciate them, because they are the ones who build up my confidence.
I have friends, who tells me how beautiful my other friends are, but never ever dish a single compliment to me. And I don’t really care, because maybe, they just don’t feel comfortable doing so. Or maybe, they just plainly find me unattractive.
This entry is not written because I want to be told I’m beautiful. It’s not written because I want guys to fall in love with me. I don’t, because I have my Baby. This entry is written because I have been feeling this way since forever, and I’m so tired of bottling it up inside of me.
I want to be beautiful, I want to be noticed. So who knows, maybe one day I’ll get something done to my exterior. Or maybe, I’ll just start starving myself now so that I’ll be skinny because that’s what people define as hot. Sometimes, I don’t know why I’m so superficial. But isn’t everyone?
So now, I really want to know, I want to ask you guys this question:
Would you rather be liked/loved because you’re pretty and hot?
Or would you rather be liked/loved because you’re sweet and nice?
omg you dont lame la. why would Jay be looking for you man. you self-proclaimed him as your husband omg. my dear my dear my dear, God made all of us beautiful and lovely. Dont be too bothered by the society’s superficiality thin. You’re beautiful by being yourself, just jesslyn you know? And I love you for who you are, and you are beautiful and gorgeous, and you know why? I only notice chiobus. :D And you’re always always ALWAYS my ms beauty who mesmerises ONLY ME ok! I love you la sweetheart.
BIG TEDDY BEAR HUG. <3
i’d rather be liked/loved because i’m “sweet and nice” cause that’s what’s true. and as cliched as it sounds, looks don’t last; it never does.
and jessjesssss, i really think you’re beautiful. not cause i feel i should say it but because you truly are. and eh remember what my friend said!!! ahh hahahha secretly happy :) and you’ve got so many people loving you for all that you are- both inside and out, yay :)
love you ass, kisskiss :)
just so you know.
i ever commented, “eh, this girl is quite pretty!” while browsing through some of your pictures. (qin was showing them to me, and this was BEFORE i even knew you.)
and,
last year, my birthday, at the dinner with everyone including my OLD (pun) friends, i whispered to them and said, “eh! that girl, quite ‘chai’ right?”
the above are only a couple of examples.
not that there’s a need to prove to you that i think you’re pretty.
in fact, you’re more than pretty. you’re beautiful.
both on the inside and out.
and.. i really don’t think you should feel the way you do, because, to each his own. it is fact that not everyone would think you’re pretty/ gorgeous/ hot. but certainly you would appeal to some. and this is the case for everyone else no matter how pretty/ gorgeous/ hot.
the point is, you can’t please the whole world. and you can’t get everyone to agree that you are pretty/ hot. whatever. besides, like you already know. its superficial. right? just, don’t get so affected.
be loved, not because you’re pretty/ hot/ sweet/ nice.
be loved, because you’re you.
Jess, you’re beautiful, even my friend said so. She went to your blog from my blog and told me that ‘hey, this girl is pretty’ and she didn’t even know who you are (until I told her). And I always thought of you as one of more beautiful cousins I have lol (this made me sounds so evil.. but hey, I feel proud having beautiful cousins haha)
Don’t be bothered with all these appearance things, some people’s standards of beautiful are just simply crazy, you don’t have to be stick-skinny or super fair or having double eyelids or whatsoever to be called beautiful or hot. Everyone have their own standard of beauty; it’s in the eyes of the beholders after all :)
And I agree with the comment above, be loved because you’re you - not because you’re trying to be someone else ;)
you’re beautiful jess… hehe… sometimes, beauty in the inside… meant much more than just beauty on the outside =)=)
Wah lao!. You blog until like this, I don’t know what to think lehs! Haha. Because whenever I go facebooking in class when I am bored, my male classmates will come over here and ask who is that pretty girl who has such beautiful big eyes. A male friend recently told me he saw this pretty girl in my first top friend and wanted to get to know you! Guys from my who lives near you account message me to ask about you.
EH. So many guys are looking at your face and thinking you are gorgeous la. Then I see all the precious comments by your friends, so many other guys think you are pretty! Haha. Honey ah, I think we are the ones who are going unnoticed whenever we take pictures with you la. Or we are the ones who are helping them to get close to you. Haha.
And then hor, skinny isn’t hot lehs. I’ve asked guys before. Hot is defined as curves, confidence and personality. So DON’T STARVE LA. K? I know how much you love food! Haha.
I rather be loved because I’m sweet and nice la. Wah lao. Answer not obvious ah. My previous r/s broke off because I’m not sweet and nice la. Haha. That’s the truth ma. Looks can change one. If your partner loves the way you look but not your personality. If one day, you grow old, then your looks all change. Hot change to not. How? He don’t love you le ah? Because you not hot liao. So it’s gd your BABY loves you inside. Haha.
And Honey, you ARE beautiful and you ARE noticed. There are so many examples sia. Now I’m Jealous! Haha. Love you honey!!!! :D Missing you so much. When you get back to Singapore, I’m gonna point out the guys who actually take a second look at you! Haha.
people always don’t notice what really is around them!!! beauty is really in the eye of a beholder. some people might think marilyn monroe is hot but some others might think she looks like a tranny. HAHA. but to me you’re a pretty & cute small package.
don’t think so much about such things. not good for you HAHAHA!
XOXOX
HAHAHA. omg jesslyn. why does your post sound as though you’re gona get plastic surgery done. haha. don’t okayokay! hahah! seriously, look at all the comments! everybody says you’re truly beautiful. maybe i should write a post like that too! hahah! okay joking. i know that’s not your motive of writing this post. u must have wrote it late at night while pondering on little silly things.. then anyhow ponder till this topic, and had a sudden inspiration to blog.
i know you’re a deep thinker. that’s good, but dont overthink la. till you feel inconfident of yourself. the jesslyn i know is a girl with high self confidence, great personality, and beautiful just like that. haha. =) i’m not fibbing! i’m proud to have a beautiful bestfriend! haha.
yea min ru is right. dont starve! we know you love food. so do we! hahaha.
i’d rather be liked/loved because i’m sweet and nice (: if people only like you cuz of your looks, then they are really shallow idiots who are missing out on plenty of really great people around them.
hehe. alrights. lovelove! see you soon! xD